Kar ke dekho, achcha lagta hai…

I stopped writing 16 days before I was scheduled to marry. 13^th October, 2011 was the last day when I penned my feelings. Since then Heena has been driving my life smoothly within permissible limit of speed. There were few speed breakers and road blocks in the journey but we managed to drive our vehicle for three years with acceptable maintenance cost and a loyalty bonus in the form of my son, Suhaan. Leaving aside Heena and workplace obligations for a moment, I planned to write today.

The topic of group discussion for my admission to IRMA was, “Should youth be allowed to marry according to their will”? Interesting question to which nobody in this world, dead or alive has correct answer. People may have firm opinions but no correct answer. Those who are scheduled to marry in the near future often ask me, “Is getting married a right decision”? Being a management student, I have developed a habit of not giving straight answers and I say -“It depends”.

By nature I am an elastic person offering very low and sometimes no resistance to what has been happening to my life. Four years back mom repeated famous dialogue of Indian mothers, “beta shadi kar le”. Indian dudes are used to this question which they often ignore. Those who have already shortlisted their life partner become conscious and get juicy content for emotional discussion with partners for a month. Being less of a dude I was slated to marry with a girl whom my mom selects for me. As getting married under 28 is out of fashion I chose to ignore the question. Ignorance is not always bliss and led to another pestering of question, “tune koi dhoond li hai to bata de”? Believe me mom, I do not have adequate looks and skills for achieving this feat.

The elasticity in me could not resist more and finally Bahoo Dhoondo Abhiyaan was launched in the leadership of mom. Two different teams were divided for the task. One team was led by mom and the other was led by Didi. Mom’s team was big enough as the objective was to search bahoo from outside Saharanpur (my home town).  Didi’s team was small with Jijaji being the only member of it.

In India, all the bahoo dhoondo abhiyaans in the past have been a great failure. The reason being the leader of these abhiyaans is always under the impression that her son is best in the world and deserves nothing less than the best. This is the only Abhiyaan in India which is launched in every household even after getting miserably failed. To my luck, good or bad yet to be decided, I was spotted my in-laws and I was finally married to Heena on 29^th October’2011.

Leaving aside Heena and workplace obligations for a moment I planned to write today but the thing is I cannot leave Heena aside even for a moment and ended up writing a piece more or less related to her.

Close to three years down the line…I would answer the question often asked by those who are scheduled to marry in the near future, “Kar ke dekho achcha lagta hai”.

Happily married…J